I think it would be an appropriate theme for my first post if we talk about the thing that this blog is about first and foremost, being a mom.
I became a parent at the ripe young age of 17, so I didn’t quite get the typical introduction to parenting. Don’t get me wrong, I attended prenatal classes, did the hospital tour and read as many parenting books as I could cram into the spaces between extra curriculars and classes; but I faced a lot of adversity that I have had the pleasure of skipping in my old age with my next two (but that’s a post for another day!).
I often get teased “When is the next one coming?!” “Are you trying again yet?!” “Oh it must be a breeze for you now that you’re so used to it!” (can I get a collective giggle from all my other “experienced” moms?) but there are so many things about becoming a new mom that don’t get old. So many moments that you wish you could live in forever because soon enough they’ll be coming home from school telling YOU all about the world you thought you knew. So regardless of age or amount of kids, these are my personal top five best moments of becoming a new mom:
- Labour Pains
This is a funny one because anyone who’s ever seen anyone in labour can vouch for the fact that contractions SUCK. Losing your mucus plug SUCKS. Having your water break SUCKS. Overall the whole experience is pretty gross by normal standards. Now that I’ve got you all remembering/imagining the joys of child birth (sorry about that), any of you who have had a child will also be able to remember that crazy feeling of anxious excitement. My children were with me when my labour started and my oldest kept saying “Mom! I’m scared for you! You’re hurting so bad, I don’t want you to hurt like that!” and somehow in between my contractions I had to explain to her that it was the best kind of pain because I had been waiting 9 months for this! I was so ready to meet my new little man that the pain was exciting. It was a means to an end and boy oh boy after 9 months of pregnancy you are ready for that end.
Plus, you really do forget how much it sucks (almost).
2. That Gross Slimy Little Creature
Picture it, you’ve just been through pain you’ve never thought imaginable and are experiencing relief (For most of us, that’s the part after the shoulders get out) for the first time in hours/days/9 fricking months you take a deep breath of relief and all of a sudden, there they are. Covered in white goo, blood and placed right there on your chest. You look at that gross, slimy little creature and you’ve never seen anything like it in your entire life. It is beautiful, warm, safe and all it needs and loves in the world is you. You’ve put in 9 months of work and now you’ve created this perfect little human under all that mess and you basically have to peel your eyes away.
You’ll probably even kiss baby before they wipe off all that yuck!
3. The Opening
One of my favourite moments ever is the first time you get to see your little humans eyes. Regardless of whether they’re blue, brown or that strange ambiguous colour (that could really be either or neither), its amazing to know that your baby sees you. You’ve spent months sneaking peeks of baby’s private little home through ultrasounds and now its their turn to really get a good look at the voice that’s been haunting them since they first started hearing (and will be for at LEAST the next 18 years).
4. The Name Game
After months of deliberation (and probably more than a few “changes of mind”) you’ve picked it. You’ve practised saying it, yelling it, conversing with it, used the websites that put the name into a sentence and finally you’ve come up with the name that your child is going to have for the rest of its life (no pressure). For the first few months of life, you’re constantly repeating their name to them hoping they will turn their head or light up (really any indication at all that they don’t think you’re insane) making that first turn or coo of recognition just that much more special.
5. A Happy Baby
Although there are so many incredible parts about having a new baby join your family, my absolutely favourite moment each and every time is when baby has their first real “happy” (you know, not gas) smile.
Its no mystery, being a parent is hard. Its sleepless, sometimes thankless and straight up difficult. So much time and energy is spent on making baby happy, changing diapers, staying on schedule, feeding, buying little toys they’ll never use, snuggling…You’re so busy driving yourself crazy with the “am I doing this right?” “is this good enough?”‘s that sometimes you forget what a great parent you are. After all of those moments of doubt and exhaustion, it is just so satisfying to see their little faces light up to let you know that they are happy and to tell you “It’s okay mom, you’re doing great”.